Marriage is considered to be a holy entwinement, a union between souls and beings; well that's what we'd like to think. In reality all religions aside, it's a way to heighten status for both or either one of the mates, a way to gain more income and another source of income, a way to hold a heart, and a way to show commitment, but why show commitment only to divorce later, is it because of the freedom to choose who we want? Why is it so hard for two people of the same sex marry, why does the interracial difference give off such a negative effect?

            As the time continues to come by and face us time after time, we see ourselves discovering our “freedoms” little by little. Women back then didn't work in the factories and facilities were always within the home. As industrialization came hand in hand with other institutions like schools and hospitals, society began to change. A slight bit of freedom is given to them as the time progresses. Now that Americans have the freedom to choose, to divorce, to do whatever they want with the relationship and sculpt it to how they see fit, or simply abandon it. Being able to divorce makes it easier then dealing with the person you thought you loved. As we abuse our freedoms we start to forget what true love is and love starts turning into words of lust.

            Being able to choose our partners we can choose to leave them if they aren’t “fit” enough to rise to our needs; by doing this how can we say we really loved them in the first place. We say we truly love someone yet we leave them and choose another, that isn’t true love. True love is when you know you’ve met your soul mate, the one that over the years slaved away at the relationship, giving into all its wills and whims. If a divorce solves a problem, so be it, but if it is a permanent ideal, then there’s much to be said on how that heart only seeks pleasure.

            We are steered towards what isn’t normal and socially accepted. Gays and lesbians are denied marriage because it’s “unrighteous”, no, more of because the person can’t see themselves go through with that kind of act. People try to step in the shoes but they can’t walk in it for long, because even then they view homosexuality as wrong and disgusting just because they have not yet experienced (taking the steps)/understand what is what is so special between homosexual couple and what the heart longs for. Not only does the mind reject what it doesn’t understand but the heart also denies what it can’t comprehend. The same goes for interracial marriage.

            Generations before us hated the fact that there was mix in between blood lines. Even though it’s more accepted now then it was back then, some people are still skeptical about the idea. Even if a person may accept interracial marriage he or she may still reject the idea of dating a certain race. As long as there are different preferences there will always be a slight racism in choosing a partner. Being that the older generation tends to be more reserved they’ll lay down the law on who they don’t want their child going out with or marrying. Interracial marriage is more accepted then lesbian or gay marriage, due to the belief that interracial marriage came first because of rebellious “teens” (back then). Each coming generations tries to out do the generation before it, and takes things to the extreme to prove something more, but their children will try to out do them. As generations pass we come closer to living naked life.

            People should have the freedom to choose whomever they want and however they want. When they do they should focus on that relationship and their own daily lives. If they focus too much on one or the other, they’ll create a rift due to the shifting of the balance.

“I [GROOM] take thee, [BRIDE], to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”

“I [BRIDE], take thee, [GROOM], to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”

            For better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. Americans are taking their vows and loves for granted, our love lives seems to be raging out of control as we go on from one lover to the next without the thought of that last “lover” if we had worked, would’ve been my soul mate. A soul mate isn’t someone who’ll just agree with you all the time and do what you say, that’s your slave, your bitch and your hired worker.

            A soul mate is someone that you take comfort in, care about, willing to offer your life, loyalty, honor, honesty and hope. Being a soul mate is much more then being married, being married is only just a step in claiming that right.